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My dad is so hardcore Republican, he refuses to let me use the car to go vote because he knows I'm voting democrat/liberal.

Well, say hello to a free uber ride, fucker.

When someone deliberately ruins other peoples fun because they don't agree with/like a certain event - seriously fuck you. Had a work colleague make us deliberately miss the Melbourne Cup by putting on some random news 2mins before the jump (and then left) so we then had to frantically find it but obviously failed to see the race. You know what - if you didn't want to why didn't you say? Why didn't you just ask someone else to do it but NO you fucked over others ppls lunch instead. It ruined it for everyone else and I'm glad I told you off for it.

Another mass shooting this time in Thousand Oaks California making it number 307 for the year and what is dumbshit doing nothing as usual except tweeting his same bullshit lines but times are changing with the Democrats winning the majority in I think the house they will be pushing to subpoena things like his tax crap and might go as far as trying to impeach his fake ass.

All the poor sheep the fucker brainwashed will then wake up and realize how fake he is.

The only news report I listened to on that described it as "the worst mass shooting in 12 days." Twelve. Days. That crushed my soul sufficiently that I decided I was done with news for the day.

I disagree, though, that the "poor sheep" will ever wake up. They live in a different reality and admitting that requires changing their way of thinking, accepting a different concept of reality, admitting they were wrong and going against the social networks they belong to which re-enforce those beliefs. Asking that of even one person is a lot and most people would not have the strength, self-awareness or both to accomplish it. It is possible a select few will come to the realization they were duped, but, those people most likely would not have been amongst his core supporters to start with. They are likely people who were swayed by his promises of jobs and economic improvement. The base, however, is mired in a deeper swamp than that. The best we can do is work around them and try to rebuild.

Sigh I despise people who are so far up their parties asses on either side they can't think for themselves.

But onto my real rant not so much a rant I don't know just very confused unsure what to do. My 11 yr old daughter told me last night that she was gay..okay I just didn't realize that at that age kids even understood sexuality. I have so many questions and no clue where to start. Of course we told her that we loved her and the only thing that mattered to us was that when she was old enough to actually date that she picked people who treated her right.

Sy, when the neighbor's kids were growing up, we knew at an early age that one of the boys would be gay. And in later years, he came out, and he's one of the most upstanding citizens in this town, a great person and big hearted guy. You shouldn't be afraid to ask questions, as long as they are posed respectfully and in the spirit of understanding. I think she'd appreciate a supportive parent who is interested in understanding her. Have a sit down open heart to heart with her, and you can both ask questions of each other.

Thanks Dew we will do that for sure , I just don't want to think of her dating period she's my baby, but I know she's growing up

Just remember it can take a long time for people to realize what they are and it can always change. Like I've gone through phases of my life thinking I was Bi and then Straight and back again and I'm 28.

Just be a cool parent and you'll be sweet :3

Syleye wrote:But onto my real rant not so much a rant I don't know just very confused unsure what to do. My 11 yr old daughter told me last night that she was gay..okay I just didn't realize that at that age kids even understood sexuality. I have so many questions and no clue where to start. Of course we told her that we loved her and the only thing that mattered to us was that when she was old enough to actually date that she picked people who treated her right.

One misconception about being LGBT is that it requires sexual awareness.
Being gay isn't about sex. It's about who you are emotionally attracted to and who you identify with as an object of your attentions. Sex is just another aspect of it.
I knew far before any sexual awareness that I was "different". I always associated men with my love interest. Watching a movie I saw myself in the man's arms during romantic scenes, never saw myself being the hero to a woman.
I was firmly "in love" with Major Don West on Lost in Space, and I was barely 10 when that played on TV.

So don't worry.
As others have said, be supportive and open.
Who knows, maybe your daughter might feel differently in a year or so. That can also happen. But if she truly is a lesbian, then be there for her, continue to love her and be the best damned mother you can possibly be. That will make all the difference in the world.

Syleye wrote: But onto my real rant not so much a rant I don't know just very confused unsure what to do. My 11 yr old daughter told me last night that she was gay..okay I just didn't realize that at that age kids even understood sexuality. I have so many questions and no clue where to start. Of course we told her that we loved her and the only thing that mattered to us was that when she was old enough to actually date that she picked people who treated her right.

Well, I was about her age when I realized I was "different" also. Heck, I think I knew before that but I just didn't know the words. As others have said, it's about where one's emotional compass finds true north, not about sex. And she probably is too young to understand all the questions you have and that's ok. You have time. I think it's very important that she felt safe enough to tell you and that she'll be able to be true to herself even in front of her family. You've given her a huge gift in that feeling of safety. Make sure she always feels that safe.

But, as for the questions, well, this doesn't really change anything. She's still your daughter, she's the same kid she was before she told you. Gay people don't have special care and feeding requirements. You just might have to help pick out two wedding dresses some day, instead of a dress and a tux That's all.

Thanks all. I will continue along just being her mom and do my best to raise her to be happy and self assured. ( and hopefully to pick partners that respect her and vice versa)

Syleye wrote:Thanks Dew we will do that for sure , I just don't want to think of her dating period she's my baby, but I know she's growing up

Syleye: just be the best damned mother you can be. That's the most important thing.

https://youtu.be/kBIhqNT5gsE

Sukurachi wrote: I was firmly "in love" with Major Don West on Lost in Space, and I was barely 10 when that played on TV.

Rowr! Good choice!

You're right that, even before sex is switched on in the brain, the wiring is there and it can manifest as a kind of romantic attraction. I experienced the same as a kid, I felt myself attracted to cute male characters in the tv shows and movies I watched (young Luke Skywalker, Mark in Battle of the Planets, Starbuck in original BSG!) years before puberty revealed what it all meant.

Syleye, it sounds like you're doing fine you want the best for her and to support her and that's 90% of it.

My parents never taught me much about sexuality or romantic orientation, and to be honest I came out to them by spontaneously starting to date a friend of mine who was visiting at the time (and who I now live with!)- I told my mom I was asexual (still true), but as for romance, who knew? Not me, not them.

What mattered in the end wasn't that they had talked to me, or taught me much, because they didn't bat an eye when I admitted we were dating. There was no fanfare, no anything, just "we love you, we love our new family member, how can we help make sure you're both happy".

Which isn't to say you should never talk to your daughter, Syleye, because you should. but it IS to say that more than anything, I think, it's just important to do what you're already doing- love her, support her, and be there for her, no matter what comes.

(as for my own rant, feelin' like a big sack of sickly and frankly unimportant potatoes someone left in the pantry and forgot until they made the kitchen stink.)

LupisDarkmoon wrote:(as for my own rant, feelin' like a big sack of sickly and frankly unimportant potatoes someone left in the pantry and forgot until they made the kitchen stink.)

This is just to momentarily complain and then celebrate myself for doing this. No worries I'll be fine!=)

Rant: I thought my family finally had to some degree accepted/come to terms with my recent diagnosis of ASD. Last weekend proved me wrong, and their intolerance and ignorance and failure to even accept several specialists words, papers, tests whatever. I'm according to them just stressed, depressed and lazy. Says the people whom btw are either retired or a social loser tbh. (yes I am angry so sorry if it sounds slightly offensive, I wouldn't know since I say things the way they are as I lack a social filter!) For contrast I get up at 04.00-04.30 am every weekday to get on a train for uni and I get home between 17.00 - 19.00. Have a lot of pensum and assignments to do aside the fact that just taking the train, being around people all day wears me out because of my autism. (sensory issues) When I finally get home I am bombed to put it midly, so when I say I am tired there's more than one reason... and when I say I took a day off from uni (when you have exams you don't need to attend classes) to rest and sleep so I wouldn't crash again like I did so badly last december, I don't need to hear it's because I'm lazy or just stressed and there's nothing wrong with me from my own family. Especially not when I score very very high on tests and the shrinks wanted me to show up as the stereotype example. I may be very high functioning when it comes to certain areas like my education but at so many others I drown and can't figure out s**t. Reading people is something I can't do even if my life depended on it. So yeah just because you don't see it because I mask it in order just to try and be accepted in society, it doesn't mean it's not there.

Solution: I went out in pouring rain with a letter to each member of my family, delivered keys and stuff and threw it in their mailboxes. Texted them as I got home just to make sure they at least got their keys and stuff. and now I am finally rid of the boulders crushing me. =D (There's a lot more to the story than just their intolerance, like they didn't believe my arm was broken when I was a kid and it took them 8 hours before they bothered taking me to the ER and so on.) And yes I am no angel either but I believe I at least deserve the respect I always showed them despite how they acted towards me.

No Stan Lee died

What a very long week this is going to be. it's only Mon, and my husband got kicked out of work today for staggering and slurring. He's lucky he wasn't outright fired. Next time he will be. I NEED a full time job, but have been turned down for everything I've applied for.

Zipper merging, folks. It works.

Commercials for woman hygene products where they breaksdance, play football, bike etc all in white pants. ..
Please. .I wear two adult diaper thingies and if I sneeze, cough or move the slightest i need to change all of my clothes. And prob throw out the chair ive been sitting on... which is why there are three folded bathtowels on anything i sit on. .. all which need changing if I sneeze. .. stupid commercials makes me feel so unnormal for being a heavy bleeder :/.