Goodbye my hunters Solarii and Byakuren. Goodbye

[Araela]

So very sorry to hear about this. If you ever need any help or feel like rolling horde over on Korgath- look me up. I'll get you started!

[Hisae]

Thank you everyone for the responses. I have been doing better than I was 4 days go when I learned. I have been going from happy, sad, angry, and back to happy again. I've been crying and it is so draining, and now when I get upset I feel the pain but no tears come out. My family has been helping me, trying to keep my emotions in check. I have been most angry about what he did to my mom and sister, he made them the ones to get me and my things back, in other words had them pay for me. And another is he promised we could still be good friends and he would stay in touch. I haven't heard from him in 5 days. I am so angry at him for what he did, and the pain he is causing me. I didn't even see this coming, things seemed good then he breaks up with me two days after my sister and mom come to visit. =(

[Cialbi]

Hmm, seems like one could tentatively say that the worst is now behind you. I certainly hope so!
Bless your mother and sister.

[Congafury]

Awww, this is just so mean! I hope you get better soon and that's what i tell you: treat that as a big present to yourself! Seriously, imagine this happened after you got married? It's all for the better, you have learned from your relations, you're now thousand times wiser, and you have a chance for a fresh start! Because i belive that very soon you will meet a much better man who will deserve your love and you'll be a million times happier! Thats how things are! Because the truth is on your side


Ps: you know, i have notied that some men are just afraid of responsibility, if it is so in his case - he's a real chicken and he doesn't deserve your tears.

"Lets be friends" Good Good, what are they thinking when saying such things? Staying friends after betraying! Makes me want to punch such people.

Pps: sorry if i'm not making sence, i feel so angry after reading this! Grrrrrr.

Hope you cheer up!

[Valfreya]

Oh so sorry to hear about you going through this. Same thing happened to me when I went through my divorce. My exhusband and I shared an account. At first I said he could keep that one and I would start over, but after a few days I got angry and took the account from him lol. So I changed the password and took control of the thing that helped me through the tough times back then. Wow was my bright spot in my day, and my hunter became my new obsession, oh and guess what, I actually met my now husband on the new server that I transferred her to lol. If you need any help send me a pm on here, I have multiple 80s on Whisperwind. But if your looking for a change come over and hang out with us on Nesingwary on horde side, just whisper me on Moxie on there, Im usually on, just /who petopians

[Sasrei]

*hugs* I am sorry that happened hun, it will get better. Remember the storm doesnt always stay, the clouds have to spread and let the sun shine through again. I know it will be hard but keep in touch with your friends and family, and as well any of us here will of course have a nice listening ear and warm shoulder for you. If you want to, just change your characters to maybe a different race or factior, and you can change servers to. But its up to you, but no matter what your descision is, Ill be here for you

[Teigan]

Yeah, like Valfreya said, you'd be more than welcome over on Nesingwary if you want a fresh place. The guild is wonderful and I'd be happy to toss you an invite

[Hisae]

I was doing alright today but he sent me my photo ablum and I looked through and I noticed that all his pictures are gone, he had the nerve to go through my album and remove his pictures when he had told me we were going to still be friends. I have gone from feeling better and I feel like I'm back at square one. I'm hurting all over again. He didn't even send a letter.

[Kalliope]

This is on him, not you. He's intentionally causing you more pain and not letting you get away from him.

I know it's hard, but don't let him get to you.

*hugs*

[SgtMakkie]

I'm sorry to hear that things are still ticking over like this. As harsh as it might sound, it is probably for the better (even if it is only short term) to completely cut all connection with him and give yourself time to be you. I'm over a year on from a nasty break up/relationship and to this day it still gets me. Yet, I've zero contact or communication with her and that has helped me get on with my life.

Just an idea

Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend - Bruce Lee.... So apt to modern life!

[Raziya]

I'd honestly just sever ties as well...I know that doesn't seem like the optimal solution, but he is intentionally messing with your feelings (especially by sending the photo album...what a jerk), and you don't need that in your life, now, or ever IMO.

[Cialbi]

he had the nerve to go through my album and remove his pictures when he had told me we were going to still be friends.

At best, he has no clue how to make a break-up as clean as possible, let alone how to 'still be friends' with an ex-fiancee. At worst, he's twisting blades just to make the pain that much worse for you. Regardless of what his problem is, I think that his actions are speaking louder than his words. Thus, I agree with the above people in that you are best off having him out of your life rather than trying to salvage some semblance of a friendship.

No one deserves having to deal with an insensitive jerk

[Tsiya]

Want I should slap 'im around for ye?(my best italian mobster voice)

Get some pictures of a superhot guy from somewhere, put them on every page of the photo album and send it back to him. <hugs>

Lots of ups and downs with this sort of thing, and his actions are just making it harder. Can you have someone you trust go through your mail and just pull out anything from him and box it up until you feel better?

[Mearra]

I'm really sorry your engagement has ended and the two of you are split, I'm really sorry. I can see how it would be hard to deal with those characters from then on.

Though, I do agree with those who suggest that (when you're ready) perhaps have the characters restored name change/race change(if that much is necessary as well) and continue on.
At least that way you get to keep all the levels and the rares you worked so hard for.'


PS I wrote this message ages ago, but for some reason never submitted and just recently found it on one of my tabs >< sorry.

[Adam-Savage]

That really sucks to hear. Maybe a cute kitten picture will help.

[GormanGhaste]

While there's nothing wrong with rolling up a new toon during difficult times (that's actually how my main got started), there's no reason you should have to give up your characters--that's trying to give him power over you that he just does Not have. As you will be forging ahead in real life without him, it might be therapeutic to do the same with your characters' lives. Have a GM restore them, server-xfer, and don't look back.

No cute pics here, but a funny grrl-power blog post. (now with more wolves!)

[Azunara]

You didn't....

You just did....

EEEEEEE. YOU LINKED HYPERBOLE AND A HALF! I love that site so much! My warlock has a macro where everytime she makes a healthstone, she says, "I make healthstones! I'm magical!"

That, and half of the conversation with my family generally begin with, "Parp?" or "We are best sound making buddies!"

...Sorry for derailing. I got really excited...

[GormanGhaste]

half of the conversation with my family generally begin with...

for me, it would have to be "going to the motherf@#$ing [fill-in-the-blank] like an ADULT!" or "it's like the things never end!"

I had to recommend it for therapeutic value--it makes me laugh until I cry.

[Araela]

I have been thinking of you recently, Solarii. I keep checking in hoping to see some good news but it looks like it's been a bit more of a rollercoaster than a calmer ocean for you. As I said, if you ever roll horde over on Korgath just look me up- Araela - and I will get you started. Even if you just want a place to log on and be, my guild is in the process of trying to level so we don't have very many people yet. Some are talkative, some are pretty quiet - it's really whatever you want the guild to be.

I'll keep praying for you! I told my husband a little about what happened and he's been praying for you too. Well wishes are being sent your way my friend. Keep your chin up - things will get better!

[Hisae]

Hello everyone. Its been 2 weeks since my breakup. Here is the full details.

Ok, my sister and my mother came to visit me for a week so they could get to know my ex. He cooked them dinner and we talked about wedding stuff and all the other stuff. We had talked about me spending the ENTIRE week with my mom and sister, spending the night with them at the hotel. Well, the next morning, my sister, mother, and I go and have breakfast. I call my fiance and ask if he wish to come with us, he tells me about this interview that is in Miramar. I say good luck and for him to call me to tell me what happened. We go out for the day and I call him twice and two texts through the entire day, he doesn't call till 7pm at night. He tells me that he got the job, I think 'GREAT! FINALLY A JOB!' then he says that he has some bad news and that he wants to tell me in person. I start to worry. Mom and my sister calm me down and say that it can't be as bad as I'm thinking. He calls me and asks me to come down to the lobby of the hotel. I go down and I'm trying to keep myself together, he hugs me and he sits down, and I ask him what's going on. He tells me he got the job and tells me a bit about it, I ask him if he had told his mom, and to my surprise, HE DID. He told her BEFORE ME! He then tells me that the news he wanted to tell me is based off what his job is, and that's when he tells me that he is ending the relationship. I am shocked and can't believe what I'm hearing, I don't react, I just sit there and say "ok," in response. He tells me I need to get my things out before the week is out because he has to get ready to move to D.C. for his training and he puts the RESPONSIBILITY on my mom and sister to get me and my things home. I go back up and tell my family, they are in shock as I am. We go the next day and get my things. We UPS it and then we go back to the hotel and get tickets to fly me from California to Texas. We fly on the Wednesday, two days since the break up.

Its been two weeks since then, the boxes came in and I started crying when they arrived and when we opened them two days ago, I'm better than I was those two weeks ago. I have already been making plans on what I want and need to do. I am going to do a temp agency and get my money up where I can get myself back in school, since I did take a break and moved out there with him.

Wow-wise I did delete all my characters and I have started two new characters on the server that I have been apart of for a long time. I decided I wasn't going to let him chase me off the server I discovered, and the guild I am apart of has been supportive. My characters are Hisae-human mage and Starhope-NE hunter, the Server-Whisperwind. I am having a blast and rediscovering the joy that I realize that I missed with my original mage, Plua. The hunter I named Starhope as a reference to the hope of beginnning anew. I have been thinking of restoring my mage and hunter but I do not think I am ready for that.

Araela and everyone else, I have been so honored and grateful that you all have been thinking and supporting me. I do have my moments of both anger and happiness as I think of him. I know I will live on and I know my family of 13+ will not let me stay down for very long and they will get me out and about.

I hope to see some of you on Whisperwind one day! I love you all! *Hugs*