I need advice...

[Aleu]

Okay, I'm very upset and depressed now, mainly due to something that just recently happened in game.

There is a friend of mine I'm very fond of. I've played with him for nearly three years on this game and I'm very close to him. We've chatted and such, exchanged photos and while ago he told me that he really liked me. We never made it official until we were able to meet in real life.

Two weeks ago, he told me he was going job hunting. He wanted money so he could fly up here to visit me and stated that after that, he may even look for a place up here. He is four years older then me, but I'm almost 20. That shouldn't be a factor. Anyways, he left on a Saturday, and managed to find internet on Wednesday. He told me that he was down in the gulf helping out with the clean up. He said he'll be back by the end of the next week and he'll have lots of money. He was able to talk to me Monday and Tuesday and on Thursday, he sent me a letter telling me he was home and had some real life issues with his family, mainly his father and that he'll be a bit longer.

I simply said okay and that I missed him. He didn't log on on Friday. I figured he was resting. Well, about an hour ago he finally logged on. I whispered him as I always do, he didn't respond right away so I went to where his toon was to make sure he didn't get hacked. I expected him to either say he was back or to simply give an update. However... what he told me took me off guard.

He said he was done with this game and leaving, possibly switching severs should he come back around Cata. He said none of this was my fault, but that he was pissed. I was going to ask what was wrong and if he wanted to talk about it, but he logged off, not leaving me any contact infomation. I have his Yahoo name, but no email, no numbers... Nothing. That's what's hurting me so much.

I've talked to a few people and most are telling me the same thing. Give him time to calm down. He's been known to make hasty decisions when he's angry like this. Twice he's said he was quitting and canceling when something happened and both times he's come back... I have a feeling this may be the same, but at the same time I'm still upset. I broke down after he told me.

It's not the fact he left the game (And kinda left me hanging on our RP plot) everyone needs a break, but... Leaving me with no way to contact you? That's what's upsetting me. I guess I just need more advice on what to do...

[Fael]

It does seem insensitive of him to be confessing feelings and treating you specially, only to leave you behind. I can only think that either something really upsetting happened or he could just be very self centered. He's upset enough that he won't think about how other people are affected by his actions, he is just reacting to it. If that's the kind of guy he is you'll have to think about if you'll want to accept that side of him or see if he'd work on it... because if what the others say is true you might end up going through this again and again.

Perhaps just follow their advice for now and give him some time? When he comes back or if you decide to try to reach him you could let him know how you feel about his actions. If he's serious about seeing you and living near you I hope he'll be willing to listen and understand.

[Aleu]

I think it's just something was really upsetting him and he made a very rash decision and I have a feeling he may regret it later. Everytime he's come back, he said it's because he couldn't pull away from me. He had to work almost 12 hours down in the gulf with very little sleep. I think the issues just added salt to the wound.

I'll give up hope and move on if I do not hear from him in a few days.

[Sarayana]

Aw hun'. I'm sorry to hear that, that's hurtful whether or not he intended it.

I can't really add anything to what Fael said, it's exactly the advice I'd give... I hope you will be given the chance to figure out what's going on and where you want to go with it.

[Aleu]

I talked it out with my mom as well. She said it's likely he may come back as he has established a pattern. He seems to face something that causes him a lot of stress, he makes a rash choice, and later comes back regretting it. I won't count on it, but I think he shut me out because he was afraid he'd take it out on me... If he talked to me. I understand that and I'm pretty sure he never meant to really hurt me. I just hope he realizes this later, but... Mine as well let him cool down.

The first time he said he was leaving was when his girlfriend died of heart failure. I think the second time there were similar family issues. I feel a bit better now. I mine as well take a break from the game in general. Will do me good.

[Dulanie]

You might also want to send him an ingame mail with some safe contact info like an e-mail addy or irc/yahoo/msn chat ID. He may log back on to talk with you, and if you are taking a break he may be unable to. I can see where he is comeing from considering what I have and am going through right now. Trust me when I say you'll deffinately want to be there if he reaches his hand out for support or a shoulder to cry on or w/e else.

[Aleu]

Aye, I did. I left him my YIM and email, should he ever want to talk. Give him some time over night. Until then I'm gonna go watch some YouTube or something. Find something that will take my mind off things.

[Nevar]

This does seem a very upsetting situation and I hope that he comes around or has, I cant give you any advice other than what others have. Best of luck to you

[Aleu]

I've erased everything I had of him in the game. If he wishes to contact me, he can do so. I'll forget about him. My mom is always reminding me of his own real life issues and that if he left before and came back, then it's possible he'll do it again.

For now. I need to get rid of this stomach ache. Gonna watch some Fallout 3 play through videos with this comfy chair.

[Sarayana]

I've erased everything I had of him in the game. If he wishes to contact me, he can do so. I'll forget about him. My mom is always reminding me of his own real life issues and that if he left before and came back, then it's possible he'll do it again.

For now. I need to get rid of this stomach ache. Gonna watch some Fallout 3 play through videos with this comfy chair.