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I feel a bit weird about it, but I dislike calling women whores and sluts, especially with how gendered the insults are and the fact there's little to no equivalent for dudes.

I feel the same way, Novikova.

I don't XD

Novikova wrote:I feel a bit weird about it, but I dislike calling women whores and sluts, especially with how gendered the insults are and the fact there's little to no equivalent for dudes.

This 100%. Putting people down for having sex is silly, especially when it's only ever applied to women. Yeah, we can say "manwhore", but it doesn't have nearly the negative connotation that "whore" does. Why is having sex a lot a bad thing? >.<

In other news, my livestream is still broken. Livestream is basically my for-sure way to break art block, so this is a problem.

LupisDarkmoon wrote:

Novikova wrote:I feel a bit weird about it, but I dislike calling women whores and sluts, especially with how gendered the insults are and the fact there's little to no equivalent for dudes.

This 100%. Putting people down for having sex is silly, especially when it's only ever applied to women. Yeah, we can say "manwhore", but it doesn't have nearly the negative connotation that "whore" does. Why is having sex a lot a bad thing? >.<

In other news, my livestream is still broken. Livestream is basically my for-sure way to break art block, so this is a problem.

See I don't use it in that way being as I'm a person who loves a good bit of sex I don't think having lots of sex is a bad thing and it never will be. I also don't care if you pay for sex too it's a job XD

Hell no better way of getting rid of stress then sex

I would say it depends on how it's used. If it's used in a positive or joking way between friends it's different to calling someone a slut to put them down because they have sex. And guys can be called sluts too. At least in modern times.

Those people who halve the cost of an item on the AH just to 'assure' that they will sell it. I hate you. I hate you people so much. Thanks to you, I'll be lucky to get 1k for a pet, when a few days ago it was worth 8k. You dicks. You're screwing everyone over with that. You're permanently lowering the worth of the item! What is wrong with you? You could've sold it for 7999g. That would've been totally acceptable! But 1000g? Seriously?

THIS POST MIGHT BE TRIGGERING <<< fair warning just in case

So... I've been considering making this post for a while now, but didn't in case it was considered too much. I did read the forum rules and while it's technically not against the rules as far as I can see, it might be too much, I don't know :/ I have no idea how long or how short this post will be, all depends on wether I'm going to break down while writing it or not. *sigh*

For months now, I've been suffering from depression, and, with the exception of one guildy, didn't have anyone to talk to. That's why I'm posting this here. If you couldn't guess that from my posts, that's because I do try to fake normalcy... Cause I didn't really want people to know... Untill it got too much to handle.
Since October last year I live on my own in a (small) appartment. I moved here 2 weeks after turning 19 years old. Bit early to straight up live alone (at least for where I live) but I didn't really have a choice. The situation at home was NOT a good one. That said, I wasn't really ready to live on my own yet... It was kinda a choice between two evils, so to speak.

I have autism, and yes, need a little more help with things than "normal" people. (Should note that not everyone with autism needs that... It depends on the individual, I happen to need it). I'm also really insecure.
I'm transgender, and have had visits to the only hospital in Holland that helps with that (In Amsterdam... Which meant 2 hours to and 2 hours back in the train weekly for a while. I was obviously willing to do that - it's my dream to one day have the body that I should have had from the start). But after about 5 visits, they tell me I'm too insecure and that, because of that, they won't help me. I worked a year long on my confidence... Only to be told the same thing again when I went back. Which ended up shattering most of my hopes again.

Both of those things (autism, lack of self confidence, transgender) caused me to be bullied... A lot. To the point where I had to leave school at the age of 17, simply because the bullying got too much to handle. Which means that now (in a time where it's already hard to find a job) it's INCREDIBLY difficult to find a job.

All of that has led to my depression. But the last few weeks / months have been the worst. I've done things I used to say I'd never do -- self-harm being one of them. I'll spare everyone the details, but my arms are well, full of cuts.
I've had suicidal thoughts. One (looking back on it now, luckily) failed attempt, even. I have a pack of sleeping pills as I have sleeping problems (No doubt because of my depression), but have been too scared to take them in - one of the side effects the doctor didn't mention was depression. I don't want to make my depression EVEN WORSE. But now... Part of me wants to throw the pills away, and the other part of me wants to keep them... In case it ever gets too much and I want to end it. I know that sounds terrible... But I guess that's what the trigger warning is for.

I can't talk to my dad, because he's an alcoholic and doesn't even remember what goes on in my life a week after I tell him.
I can't talk to my mother, because whenever I talk to her we end up fighting - part of the reason I moved out in the first place.
I have no friends in real life to talk to - As a result of getting bullied so much (And also why I couldn't stay in school) I'm afraid of people - I get panic attacks whenever I know I have to leave the house, to the point where I have to ask my grandmother to go with me when I have to do things like groceries.

And this week I found out that a "friend" I trusted with my story leaked it to his guild members - who now enjoy harassing me (I've reported them... But still. WoW was my way to escape all this and now thanks to them not even there I'm safe)
I'm quiet... And as a result find it difficult to find my place in my guild. Don't get me wrong, I love my guild... But it seems like everyone is having fun together, while I have to quietly watch from the sideline...

I feel alone
I feel invisible
I feel like I'm no one
I want to scream
I want to cry
And I hate being depressed

Sorry for my rant. And sorry if it is indeed too much. If it is - please do delete it. I don't want to cause any trouble.
Now I'm going to sleep... Cause it's like 5AM here...

Wain wrote:I would say it depends on how it's used. If it's used in a positive or joking way between friends it's different to calling someone a slut to put them down because they have sex. And guys can be called sluts too. At least in modern times.

This, honestly around here.. Well whore and sex dont really apply to people who have lots of sex, I mean they can.. and by all means if you're having a lot of sex you need to be careful about it. That being said, doing that isnt my style. Around here.. whore/slut generally apply to women and yes men who encroach on relationships. I'm sorry but if you love sex THAT much go find other single people. It happens to often that people want what they cant have and they decide to try to get it by whatever means necessary including using sex. That is however how it is used around where I live. For instance, a girl I know was recently messaged and called a slut by another guys girlfriend, why? Because said girl KNEW this guy had a girlfriend and didnt want anything to do with him and sent him...well pictures he didnt want. That being said whore/slut is a different word than being trashy, which this was. Idk however, maybe it doesnt bother me because I have a bunch of feminists around where I live that drive me crazy. That isnt to saying being a feminist is bad but being this kind..well that is. These feminists are the WE HATE MEN ALL MEN ARE EVIL AND SHOULD SERVE US OR BE REMOVED FROM THE PLANET feminists.. They scare me and make such a mockery of womens rights that sometimes I dont blame people who dont take it seriously.. :/

Again, not to offend but purely my opinion.

Oh those kinds of feminists ugh.... I know a least one of those types and I think she just calls her self one to be sexist. :s

cowmuflage wrote:Oh those kinds of feminists ugh.... I know a least one of those types and I think she just calls her self one to be sexist. :s

Yeah, I went to HS with one. I recently saw her at my workplace and she walked up and was like "Oh didnt we go to HS together!?" and then asked how I was etc.. She asked if I had a boyfriend and I said yes hes great to which she replies "Doubt that, I bet his a piece of shit pig just like all the other crotch chasers in the world." And pardon my language here but what the total fuck!? I was so pissed, you dont say that to somebody. My boyfriend is the nicest guy I know, respectful and kind and she decided to open her big mouth.. Ugh.

Melissa wrote:THIS POST MIGHT BE TRIGGERING <<< fair warning just in case

So... I've been considering making this post for a while now, but didn't in case it was considered too much. I did read the forum rules and while it's technically not against the rules as far as I can see, it might be too much, I don't know :/ I have no idea how long or how short this post will be, all depends on wether I'm going to break down while writing it or not. *sigh*

For months now, I've been suffering from depression, and, with the exception of one guildy, didn't have anyone to talk to. That's why I'm posting this here. If you couldn't guess that from my posts, that's because I do try to fake normalcy... Cause I didn't really want people to know... Untill it got too much to handle.
Since October last year I live on my own in a (small) appartment. I moved here 2 weeks after turning 19 years old. Bit early to straight up live alone (at least for where I live) but I didn't really have a choice. The situation at home was NOT a good one. That said, I wasn't really ready to live on my own yet... It was kinda a choice between two evils, so to speak.

I have autism, and yes, need a little more help with things than "normal" people. (Should note that not everyone with autism needs that... It depends on the individual, I happen to need it). I'm also really insecure.
I'm transgender, and have had visits to the only hospital in Holland that helps with that (In Amsterdam... Which meant 2 hours to and 2 hours back in the train weekly for a while. I was obviously willing to do that - it's my dream to one day have the body that I should have had from the start). But after about 5 visits, they tell me I'm too insecure and that, because of that, they won't help me. I worked a year long on my confidence... Only to be told the same thing again when I went back. Which ended up shattering most of my hopes again.

Both of those things (autism, lack of self confidence, transgender) caused me to be bullied... A lot. To the point where I had to leave school at the age of 17, simply because the bullying got too much to handle. Which means that now (in a time where it's already hard to find a job) it's INCREDIBLY difficult to find a job.

All of that has led to my depression. But the last few weeks / months have been the worst. I've done things I used to say I'd never do -- self-harm being one of them. I'll spare everyone the details, but my arms are well, full of cuts.
I've had suicidal thoughts. One (looking back on it now, luckily) failed attempt, even. I have a pack of sleeping pills as I have sleeping problems (No doubt because of my depression), but have been too scared to take them in - one of the side effects the doctor didn't mention was depression. I don't want to make my depression EVEN WORSE. But now... Part of me wants to throw the pills away, and the other part of me wants to keep them... In case it ever gets too much and I want to end it. I know that sounds terrible... But I guess that's what the trigger warning is for.

I can't talk to my dad, because he's an alcoholic and doesn't even remember what goes on in my life a week after I tell him.
I can't talk to my mother, because whenever I talk to her we end up fighting - part of the reason I moved out in the first place.
I have no friends in real life to talk to - As a result of getting bullied so much (And also why I couldn't stay in school) I'm afraid of people - I get panic attacks whenever I know I have to leave the house, to the point where I have to ask my grandmother to go with me when I have to do things like groceries.

And this week I found out that a "friend" I trusted with my story leaked it to his guild members - who now enjoy harassing me (I've reported them... But still. WoW was my way to escape all this and now thanks to them not even there I'm safe)
I'm quiet... And as a result find it difficult to find my place in my guild. Don't get me wrong, I love my guild... But it seems like everyone is having fun together, while I have to quietly watch from the sideline...

I feel alone
I feel invisible
I feel like I'm no one
I want to scream
I want to cry
And I hate being depressed

Sorry for my rant. And sorry if it is indeed too much. If it is - please do delete it. I don't want to cause any trouble.
Now I'm going to sleep... Cause it's like 5AM here...

I'm double posting because I just took the time to read this when I saw this. NEVER feel alone <3 We're a loving community, we want to help you, everyone has bad things in their life, you unfortunately have a bit more on your plate than others. If you'd like PM me and I will add you to realID we can sit and talk and you can rant and vent all you want. Your so-called friend isnt a friend to tell your guild like that.. Your secrets are yours to do with what you choose and when you trust someone with that, it shouldnt be broken. I dont really know you but.. You need to talk, I'll be here.

I'm double posting because I just took the time to read this when I saw this. NEVER feel alone <3 We're a loving community, we want to help you, everyone has bad things in their life, you unfortunately have a bit more on your plate than others. If you'd like PM me and I will add you to realID we can sit and talk and you can rant and vent all you want. Your so-called friend isnt a friend to tell your guild like that.. Your secrets are yours to do with what you choose and when you trust someone with that, it shouldnt be broken. I dont really know you but.. You need to talk, I'll be here.

Hey, Doc beat me to it all. I've suffered with depression a long time ago, and I really don't feel like typing it all out now, But I know what you're going through emotionally with depression and feeling alone. I may not be on wow often, but I'm on skype, you can PM me here, dA, or even tumblr. I don't know you that much, but I want to help other people who suffer with depression, because I hate seeing them suffer like I did. If you need to, we're here to help.

Bah, anyway, my rant:
I hate having a authenticator on my phone. My mom takes it, yay, no wow >_>
And WTF is this sound I'm hearing

Running through this little by little, so that you know you're not alone. Further trigger warnings for others out there!

Melissa wrote: For months now, I've been suffering from depression, and, with the exception of one guildy, didn't have anyone to talk to. That's why I'm posting this here. If you couldn't guess that from my posts, that's because I do try to fake normalcy... Cause I didn't really want people to know... Untill it got too much to handle.

90% of the time, it's 'easier' to fake normalcy, because you think that you're not worth the help. Or because you think people don't care. Well, I can tell you that they do. And hopefully getting this out in the open will open some doors for you. *hugs*

Melissa wrote:I have autism, and yes, need a little more help with things than "normal" people. (Should note that not everyone with autism needs that... It depends on the individual, I happen to need it). I'm also really insecure.

Asperger's here, as well, and again: I can assure you that there are people who can help with things. See if you can reach out to the mental health community. I know it's not the same as family, but support can get you through a lot of stuff.

Melissa wrote:I'm transgender, and have had visits to the only hospital in Holland that helps with that (In Amsterdam... Which meant 2 hours to and 2 hours back in the train weekly for a while. I was obviously willing to do that - it's my dream to one day have the body that I should have had from the start). But after about 5 visits, they tell me I'm too insecure and that, because of that, they won't help me. I worked a year long on my confidence... Only to be told the same thing again when I went back. Which ended up shattering most of my hopes again.

I'm transgender, and was turned down for 'unknown reasons' from a local clinic. That was three years ago. There are other options if you can look for them. Have you reached out to transgender support groups who might be able to give you not only some friendship and support, but another community to lean against?

Melissa wrote:All of that has led to my depression. But the last few weeks / months have been the worst. I've done things I used to say I'd never do -- self-harm being one of them. I'll spare everyone the details, but my arms are well, full of cuts.

Almost 15 months clean, but my arms and breasts are scarred for the rest of my life due to this.

Melissa wrote:I have no friends in real life to talk to - As a result of getting bullied so much (And also why I couldn't stay in school) I'm afraid of people - I get panic attacks whenever I know I have to leave the house, to the point where I have to ask my grandmother to go with me when I have to do things like groceries.

Again, this is a place where you should reach out to the community and get some support. They can help out with the phobias little by little, and getting a support structure will go a long way toward starting to get some assistance. Start small.

A rant thread is a rant thread. It's therepeutic. It's cathartic. And if anyone in the group stepped up to try saying anything against you because you're needing the chance to get some assistance, I'd be the first to jump down their throat. It's true: this won't be the place that you'll find *help* help... for that you'll have to reach out toward the professionals... but here you can find a caring community of Pet Lovers who can give you an escape, and you can find at least one concerned person who, though we come from (presumably) opposite ends of the gender spectrum, has been there, understands, and knows what you're going through in more ways than one.

I dislike ranting about my ranting. I thought this was a place where I could vent. That girl is using him and he wants me to fix it. No. If I want to call her names I can an its my problem. If she didn't live so far away I would say it to her face.

Melissa, many have said a lot of stuff I agree with. I don't have depression or any sort of mental illness(far as I'm aware) but I've grown up with a schizo/bipolar mother and a bipolar best friend with her bipolar mother. So I have dabbled in the mental illness department. I've had plenty of friends that once cut themselves and hid their scars with shame. I accepted them and pulled them from that dark place by being their friend and offering them a haven. My home in Florida was a haven for many. I'm one of the lucky kids that had a very tranquil home. My parents welcomed the 'misfits' regardless of gender or orientation or whatever problem they had. I hope to carry that tradition too when I have children of my own. It seemed to help them a lot to have a place to just unwind, relax. They didn't have to talk about their problems. They could just breathe for a moment in peace and clear their thoughts.

While I doubt I can offer my current home to you, I can still offer friendship and a listening ear if you just need to let out your feelings. You being transgender doesn't bug me. You're not the first I befriended and likely not the last.

Gah 3 rares away from Glorious! now and they are all high level Pandas >.> I only managed to kill the level 85 panda as his Spin kick did not do much damage but the level 90 ones no way can I kill them. Blizz fix now please! I have a drawing idea to celebrate it and everything but I don't know when I'll ever get it D: /First world problems

If I get another bloody DK laughing at me dieing I will punch a orphan and make fun of the fact they do not have parents.

I am sick and tired of trying to join in with things only to be ignored. I get lonely. I need people to talk to. Yet for some reason when I come over to a group that has the same interests they ignore me, shove me aside or go quiet a while before changing topic. Is something wrong with me? Is it something I said? I'm starting to feel like I'm being treated the same way as those elitists who demand "you need to have done this before you can do this with us" even though I need to do the latter to get what they want.
Sometimes I'm too shy to reply to other people so I start things up myself in hopes others would reply to me instead. I mean, I'm not a total stranger. People know me. They know what I'm like and what I like. So why... am I so alone?

Qinni wrote:I dislike ranting about my ranting. I thought this was a place where I could vent. That girl is using him and he wants me to fix it. No. If I want to call her names I can an its my problem. If she didn't live so far away I would say it to her face.

This. It's a rant thread. As long as she's not directly insulting anyone, she can say whatever she likes. That's what the thread's here for. In fact, I don't even think this is supposed to be a thread where you snope and read other people's rants and decide whether or not you agree with them. None of us know Qinni's situation. And before I start contradicting myself, I'll leave it here. xD

Ma rant: My sister put up a photo of herself on Facebook the other day. I looked at it... She was wearing *my* necklace. The one I left in my room, at home, while I'm at uni. Just because it's there doesn't mean I don't want it! And it's not just a necklace either, it's a Fullmetal Alchemist pendant that was given to me along with the stopwatch years and years ago by a very good friend who lives in the USA who I've sadly never met in real life. We lost contact a while ago but I still hold that necklace close to my heart and the fact that she's gone and stolen it right from my room so she can take a silly little photo of herself doing that retarded 'peace' symbol which means nothing to her except to 'look cool' (Seriously I hate it when people do that in photos.) really pisses me off. Luckily, I'm back home for a few days over this Easter holiday, I'm going to take it right back and take it back to uni with me. Just when me and her were starting to get along better as well. >___<

cowmuflage wrote:

Spiritbinder wrote:

cowmuflage wrote:I don't even think the egg will ever drop for me XD

Also I want the Panda rares spinkick to go back to what it was BEFORE this patch. Before this patch I could kill one and now? They 2 shot my pets. They are unkillable now :S

The only way around it that I've found kind of viable is to use Masters Call and put your pet on passivein the same macro and run/kite until it over... I totallyagree, it's really awful now..

It really sucks as I'm so close to getting Glorious! I only need 8 more and most are Pandas :S

The pandas are the WORSE but if a huntard like me can do it then anyone can do it. Otherwise being a friend/guildie for those panda butts.