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So I just completed a second date with a girl I like, but I can't read her. Should I just keep going on dates until her feelings are clear, or is it wrong to ask if she has feelings at all for me or are we just friends hanging out?

Oh boy, that depends on so much, like how long have you known her, were you friends before etc...if not long and no are the answers then I would say 2 dates is a little soon to be asking that particular question.

Redith wrote:So I just completed a second date with a girl I like, but I can't read her. Should I just keep going on dates until her feelings are clear, or is it wrong to ask if she has feelings at all for me or are we just friends hanging out?

That's what a relationship is: a long string of perpetual "dates".

As you spend time with someone, you get to know them better.
This early in your relationship, you can't really know whether or not you have feelings for them - you barely know them.
As you will get to know her, you'll see more of her, her good sides, her bad sides, and from there you'll know if this is really someone you can have feelings for and work on a healthy relationship with.

Go on more dates. if she also wants to go on more dates, well, there's obviously SOME interest there.

zedxrgal wrote:I agree with Syleye. If you've only known her a little while definitely too soon. However, in my opinion, even if you have known her as friends a while date two is too soon to worry about feelings. Dates four and five, maybe even six and then start thinking about asking her to pony up on the feelings.
But that's my opinion

This.

Also, don't think of them as 'dates'. Just do stuff together. No obligation. If there's one thing I find INCREDIBLY offputting and angering, it's the idea of 'I've spent X number of dates on you, can we sleep together now?' Your prospective girlfriend isn't a prize to be won after x number of expenditures. It's not a rep grind for two weeks and you earn a new mount (hur hur).

Building a complete relationship can take years. -YEARS-. You should be best friends first and maybe, only maybe, THEN it may become something more.

This is all true but he also shouldn't hope for something that may never happen. That being said, I'd say date her a few more times. Then maybe ask if she has any feelings for you. I say this, and hope I don't get flack, because I had a friend who repeatedly went out with a girl to dinners and movies and all sorts of romantic type dates. He thought it meant something more when in reality to her, he was just a free meal ticket to do what she wanted because she wasn't interested. I'm not saying your girl you're seeing is like that, all I'm saying is when the time is right to correctly define what your relationship is you'll know. You will need to both decide what you want out of the relationship you're building, whether that be romantic or just friends.