Oof thats a big kick to the stomach..I cant imagine how it feels but I am so sorry you have to go through this.. I would think a lot about what I wanted to do if I were you. E.g. did your husband start an affair because he does not love you anymore or because he felt that his situation at home/work/etc were getting to a point where he could not handle anymore? Do you still love him? Does he want you to forgive him ? and so onNiabi wrote:It's been a couple of days now and I think I'm ready to open up about what happened. I'm not going to go into great detail because I'm still dealing with the aftermath of it all and I don't know exactly what's going to happen in the future.
I caught my husband having an online affair with someone he had met through Facebook. This relationship had started sometime in late Jan./early Feb. of this year. The relationship turned out to be a scam job that involved my husband conducting financial transactions involving Bitcoin. Our bank is now investigating the matter and my husband's savings account have been frozen while the investigation is taking place. My husband also applied for a personal loan and credit card during this time without telling me. Apparently he had some outstanding medical bills that needed to be paid and hid them from me so I wouldn't freak out about it. He admitted to me that if the relationship had been real, he had hoped something more would've come out of it.
Not only did he want to hurt me but he may have also screwed me financially. Thankfully, I have separate bank accounts that were left unaffected by all of this.
We are supposed to celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary next Friday, on May 10th.
Right now your feelings are hurt and it can be hard to think straight... but maybe you two can still start to build trust and love again. I would suggest talking/going to a marriage counselor to figure out what you both want.