Female Reproductive Health [explicit]

[cowmuflage]

Yeah I knew you would not do anything like that. Just being safe thats all XD

[Saturo]

I have a bad sense of balance too... Someone push me ever so slightly and I fall over. It sucks. xD

[rubybeam]

I'm not sure if this is a good place to put and I know I may be too young (Almost 15, a few more mounths) but.....

Does anyone else feel uneasy at the thought of a guy dating you just to have sex?
For all I know everyone around me in my school just accepts that as a normal thing, but i'm always uneasy about it
it just seems like they want to date you not as a human being but as a pleasure toy..I think I don't know why im so uneasy about this
I mean for all know I think girls feel pain during sex and guys don't? I don't know im not going to try it until im mature enough
Everytime I think about I just feel really uneasy

[Redith]

I'm not sure if this is a good place to put and I know I may be too young (Almost 15, a few more mounths) but.....

Does anyone else feel uneasy at the thought of a guy dating you just to have sex?
For all I know everyone around me in my school just accepts that as a normal thing, but i'm always uneasy about it
it just seems like they want to date you not as a human being but as a pleasure toy..I think I don't know why im so uneasy about this
I mean for all know I think girls feel pain during sex and guys don't? I don't know im not going to try it until im mature enough
Everytime I think about I just feel really uneasy

Ok Im a GUY and that thought makes me uneasy.
1. 15 is too young IDK what any dude tells you
2. I hate...repeat HATE guys that use girls like that. Not only cause they are dicks it also hurt nice guys chances of being with the girl cause she has been so messed up by the guy that she only lets herself be used by those jerks, and wont give the good guy who cares about her a chance.

3. your better then that, dont let these jackasses ruin you

Main line-Wait til your older, wait til your ready, and wait til your with the right guy and NEVER let those pricks use you

[Miraga]

Does anyone else feel uneasy at the thought of a guy dating you just to have sex?
For all I know everyone around me in my school just accepts that as a normal thing, but i'm always uneasy about it
it just seems like they want to date you not as a human being but as a pleasure toy..I think I don't know why im so uneasy about this
I mean for all know I think girls feel pain during sex and guys don't? I don't know im not going to try it until im mature enough
Everytime I think about I just feel really uneasy

Having sex just because seems to be the "norm" in society right now. It's seen on TV, in movies and read in books and has sort of migrated over in to real life. I'm not going to say someone is too young to have sex; that's a personal choice. But what I will say is that DON'T have sex until you're ready. I know a lot of people hear this from their Mom or Aunt or Sister or WHOEVER but it's true. It doesn't have to be the love of your life, save it for marriage, etc. Just realize the consequences and be able to understand them. Also, some guys [and girls, too!!] just want sex out of a relationship. Well, I guess it's not really a relationship. More of a mutual sex partner sort of thing, lol. That's definitely why you want to get to know this person before you have sex.

As far as feeling pain, it wasn't too bad for me the first few times. After the 3rd time or so, it just felt good and no pain at all. I mean, if it hurt I wouldn't be doing it!

[Saturo]

I don't think fifteen is too young, but it should definitely be with someone who cares for more than just the sex.

Sex isn't painful. Or, well, if he's really bad it might be, but most of the time it's awesome.

[Hesantia]

I'm not sure if this is a good place to put and I know I may be too young (Almost 15, a few more mounths) but.....

Does anyone else feel uneasy at the thought of a guy dating you just to have sex?
For all I know everyone around me in my school just accepts that as a normal thing, but i'm always uneasy about it
it just seems like they want to date you not as a human being but as a pleasure toy..I think I don't know why im so uneasy about this
I mean for all know I think girls feel pain during sex and guys don't? I don't know im not going to try it until im mature enough
Everytime I think about I just feel really uneasy

Well, for starters, if a guy only dates you for that reason, will there ever be anything serious from it? Me personally wouldn't date a person if I knew that, and I waited about 4 months before I had sex with my boyfriend to avoid any suspicions that he only wanted me for sex. I think people are reasoning differently, but when you are 15 it feels like you don't really know what you are doing (hope I don't sound like an old lady ) and you can make many stupid mistakes. I know that some people disagree with me, and that's fine, but I am a romantic person, I would only have sex with someone I loved. If you feel the same, good for you. If you don't, also good for you As long as you doesn't give in to someone and do something you don't want to, it's fine for me.
Oh my, I'm rambling

[rubybeam]

Thanks for the responses by the way..
I guess whats really causing it is that Im the age I guess where your most sexually active and for some reason or another I nodice my minds more mature than other kids than it should be, in well some parts others its kinda behind.....
The guys at my school are all idiots, they all seem to just be dating girls for this reason, I nodice them talking to us sometimes as if we were animals, trying to entertain us with speech because they think thier smarter then us, I think its because they want sex. How do I know there this guy who asked a girl in our school if she bought a condom for her boyfriend for her birthday, all the girls go with this overstuffing thier bras, wearing makeup, wlaking in ways that thier cheasts and butts stick out and acting dumb to see if they guy will nodice.
I wear no makeup, just wear my clothes (Which in any way DO NOT! reveal cleavage, I don't wear tight clothes either i'm normally only worried baout my clothes because I honestly hate being a loser in schools, I want to fit in), I also hang out with one of the smallest groups that disagree with all this
and I know I shouldn't be having sex at around my age, the thought makes me uneasy just to think of it (In truth I go get sexual urges though and try my best to ignore them, which is kinda ironic with this probelm of mine)

[Saturo]

Nothing wrong with sexual urges, Ruby, as long as you don't go raping people. :)

You know, I go for pretty much the same. Sure, I wear makeup, and care about my hair looking nice and all, and for parties and whatever I like to dress up, but most of the time? Oversized, baggy hoodie and either jeans or cargopants. It's my style, and I like it, regardless of what anyone else thinks, and that's how it should be.

We call that "fjortis" over here, basically means fourteen-year-old. Around thirteen-fifteen a lot of girls start acting like that. It goes away eventually. "Fjortisfylla" for example is acting like you're drunk, just so guys will think you're an easy catch. It's hilarious to inform them that the drink was alcohol-free. :D

Really, don't worry about it, it's perfectly normal.

[Hesantia]

Oh, man... sounds like your school only have idiots

I think that you are right about the sexually active stuff, you are in that age that you have to fit in, and status and coolness is key. It's a very sensitive age to be in if you're an outsider though (I know since I was beginning to be goth back then)
But to have urges and to have sex with someone are two different things! Kids for example play with themselves without knowing what they are doing, and they are not thinking about sex right then and there, because they don't know what it is. Sex is with us all our lives. Just because you masturbate or something, doesn't mean you want to have sex. I was doing that long before I wanted to have sex "for real" anyways.

[rubybeam]

Thanks for doing this also guys, I think im a little more calm with my probelms now, hopefully I stop with all this uneasyness whenever sex is mentioned

Also has anyone else had weird times with your periods? I'm suppost to have mine for a week and once it lasted only one day so I ended up putting on a pad the next day for nothing..

[Impulse]

Thanks for the responses by the way..
I guess whats really causing it is that Im the age I guess where your most sexually active and for some reason or another I nodice my minds more mature than other kids than it should be, in well some parts others its kinda behind.....
The guys at my school are all idiots, they all seem to just be dating girls for this reason, I nodice them talking to us sometimes as if we were animals, trying to entertain us with speech because they think thier smarter then us, I think its because they want sex. How do I know there this guy who asked a girl in our school if she bought a condom for her boyfriend for her birthday, all the girls go with this overstuffing thier bras, wearing makeup, wlaking in ways that thier cheasts and butts stick out and acting dumb to see if they guy will nodice.
I wear no makeup, just wear my clothes (Which in any way DO NOT! reveal cleavage, I don't wear tight clothes either i'm normally only worried baout my clothes because I honestly hate being a loser in schools, I want to fit in), I also hang out with one of the smallest groups that disagree with all this
and I know I shouldn't be having sex at around my age, the thought makes me uneasy just to think of it (In truth I go get sexual urges though and try my best to ignore them, which is kinda ironic with this probelm of mine)

It basically comes down to making a decision and this decision is about you, if you don't feel you are ready then you are not. A guy who won't respect that doesn't deserve it anyway. Remember, it doesn't matter what others think and what they do, just make sure you won't regret it later.

[rubybeam]

I agree impulse, I know I won't be doing something alreadly that I won't regret

[Hesantia]

Ruby, about your period: have it ever been really regular, or is it just that it should be for one week? Did you get your first period a long time ago, or sooner?

When I started having mine, I think it was kinda unregular for the 2-3 years I had it before eating birth control pills. First: it was five weeks between, and "standard" is about 4 weeks. Second: some months it just skipped, or came back later. I don't know for how long, and guess this is depending on the person, but it will do as it pleases for some time, and only it knows for how long

[rubybeam]

I got mine at the age of twelve, its normally just one week, after that mounth finished though it turned back to normal

[Hesantia]

Okay, well, it should be kind of steady then, but I guess it can always do some wierd stuff at any time. Where you maybe under more stress or something that month? Eating less than usual? I think that those things can mess with the period in some ways.

[Cerah]

Ruby, don't let anyone else pressure you into sex if you don't feel you're ready for it. It's your body, and your choice alone. Even if it seems like "everyone's doing it", that doesn't mean that you have to as well. I know I might sound like a parent or teacher, but I'm not. I think we have quite a bit in common there, with not fitting in, feeling left out. The thing is, and take it from someone who's been there, those people don't matter in the long run. The kids at school aren't going to determine what university or college you go to, or what job you'll get in the future. They'r'e just people that you have to somewhat associate with just because you're all crammed into the same educational institution -- for now. Believe me, in a few short years, they'll matter about as much to you as the dirt beneath your feet (actually less so -- the dirt at least serves a useful function in giving you something to walk on). The one person who will matter to you in the future, however, is yourself. So don't do anything that makes you feel uneasy or unsure. Don't do anything that you think you'll regret, because you are the one who will have to live with it.

In high school, I was a bit of an outcast too, but after coming to the realization that what random people in the school said didn't matter at all, I felt a lot better about myself. I joined the clubs I wanted to join, did what I wanted to do, even if it were "nerdy" (i.e. I ran the school sci fi club for a year) I never stuffed my bra or wore makeup, but I found a guy that really appreciates me for who I am. I met him when I was 16, we dated for months before going all the way, and I'm still with him now, 11 years later. He's my high school sweetheart and best friend, and I'm very happy I waited for someone like him to come along. It was the best decision of my life.

Good guys who do know that women are human beings in their own right, not put on this earth for their amusement, do exist. They're out there, and you will find one. Just have patience, and above all be true to yourself. Be the person that you want to be, and any guy worth being with will appreciate you all the more.

As for the period thing, if yours is being very irregular now when it wasn't in the past, that's probably something you'll want to talk to your doctor about if it continues, but if you're back to normal now, don't worry to much. Sometimes stress can cause your cycle to go out of whack.

[lilatha]

Suffering from irregular periods is a fairly clear indication that your cycles have become imbalanced. There are a variety of reasons for this and also many ways to address the imbalance. Many women are unconcerned about having irregular cycles until they begin trying for a baby, but other women find it very difficult to plan without knowing when their periods could appear.
What are irregular periods?
Irregular periods are simply those that are not regular. If you suffer from irregular periods, you simply will not know when your period is going to appear. Cycles can vary from 23 to 35 days, but they are classed as regular if your periods occur at roughly the same time each cycle. So, even if your periods are, say, 35 days apart instead of the usual 28, but they always appear at day 35, they would be classified as being 'normal'. Irregular periods can be extremely difficult or even impossible to track.
What symptoms could you experience?
Minor cycle irregularities are common. For example, you may have your period on day 23 of one month and then the next month on day 35.
You may, however, have a much more irregular cycle, in which case it is important that you have further investigations, so that other problems, such as polycystic ovary syndrome (see polycystic ovary syndrome section) can be ruled out. The following symptoms are characteristic of irregular periods, and you can experience a combination of any or all of these:
1. Large gaps with no periods
2. Some gaps and then periods coming too frequently for a while (for example, two in one month) followed by gaps again.
3. Gaps of no periods and then bleeding continuously for a few weeks.
4. Spotting in between period.
What are your choices?
The natural approach is designed to encourage your body to re-establish regular ovulation and to get your hormones back in balance. Given the right tools, your body has the remarkable ability to balance itself. The supplements outlined below are designed to ensure that you are well nourished - in other words, your body has all the nutrients it needs.
-Multivitamin and Mineral
-B Vitamins
-Antioxidants
-Magnesium
-Essential Fatty Acids (EFAs)

[rubybeam]

About the persiod thing, it only happened once, it started to go normal again so I don't really think of it to be much of a probelm actually

[Lotusii]

whenever my boyfriend would come up behind me and lift them up and the first thing I think every time is "OMG THAT FEELS SO MUCH BETTER".

Im not sure If as a guy im alowed to post here but if im not just delete this.

Lol My current girlfriend hates when I come up and lift her breasts up because she says it throws off her center of gravity

I do stumble a bit at first but I get my balance back pretty quickly and then it feels like a huge weight has been quite literally lifted off of me. It was funny when he would tell me they were heavy and it was no wonder I complained sometimes.