Thank you. For the apology, that is.SgtMakkie wrote:I'm sorry but it is time for the Makkie bandwagon to stop! A lot of you have posted some very valid and correct points and I have gone over the line once or twice, for which I am sorry (remember this!).
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A lesson I've been grappling with myself is that one must distinguish between apologizing for their actions and defending their actions. It's the difference between acknowledging that you were wrong and insisting that you weren't wrong. While it is possible to be overly apologetic and too readily concede (the history of the Nazis' rise to power is an excellent case in point of what happens when you don't make a stand), I don't think that's the problem here. Yes, people are apologizing, but they're also defending in the same breath. Saying "I'm sorry." sends a completely different message than "I'm sorry, but...".
So, this brings me to an important question: What reasonable changes to your actions could you make to avoid these conflicts we've been seeing on the forum? Not what others should change; nor unreasonable changes such as rolling over at the first sign of disagreement.
I'll begin.
I need to not make assumptions when accusing someone. That has to be one of my biggest transgressions. I also need to pay more heed to the 'no naming & shaming' policy. By that, I mean that I shouldn't even be doing to indirectly. In addition, I've been pursuing debates too aggressively. Yes, I do think that I've been intentionally aggressive at times, and I don't think it was appropriate. Oh, and I shouldn't join in dogpiles; it's no more acceptable for me to attack when everyone else is, and accomplishes nothing useful. Finally, I need to walk away sometimes, and haven't.
I think that I will sleep on this, and see if I can come up with anything else tomorrow. I'm sure that sleep deprivation is having an effect upon my thinking.