Need your help!!!!

[Sphax]

I need your help !!!

most of you have more real life experience than me on this.

Thing is i wanna start playing wow again after my exams. And i want to make my girlfriend also play with me.

will be cool can lvl together and so on ^^ start from scratch. Maybe bit of RP along...


BUT:

she hates wow... she never played it but she hates it because she knows many people who were addicted to it.. well which is kinda the truth we all are a bit




any advise how to change that opinion of her towards the game? and maybe make her a member of our community?

[Saturo]

Say that you want to have a common interest with her, that it could be a way of furthering your relationship. Do something she likes with you, but that's not one of your main interests, IE spend time with her, so that she notices that you want to improve your relationship by sharing interests.

At least that's what I would do.

[kairii]

hmm this will be hard .. i hated wow to cas my ex bf never paid attention to me and made me cook clean go shooping for him all the time rather annoying :<
idk maybe let her look at the game atleast say we can pick this or that but if you like this one i would love to play it to
and be a tank and 'protect' her idk girls seem to like that
meh i dunno im rubish at advice since im not that girly nowdays x3
if you say join a rp guild with some mates let her get to know them and tell them not to be so rude around her to treat her nice
and dont be addicted take breaks now and then go outsides! xD
and if she doesnt understand things dont snap at her

best i can think of right now im sure someone will be alot better in this then me :3

[Sphax]

hmm will be hard but i will try it ^^

i think she would like playing a hunter since were both studying at veterinary school





we will see ^_^ thanks for your advice

[Saturo]

You could also try googling "how to get a girlfriend to play wow", I'm sure you'd get lots of tips from that. Just... Use common sense. Some of that stuff is probably written as pranks, to screw up relationships instead...

[Azunara]

Also, I get the addicted card from a lot of my friends when they hear about it. You can only get addicted if you let yourself become so. They're right; take breaks, and do things on the weekend together! Don't let all your free time be WoW time with each other, go out to the movies, the park, concerts, etc, etc.

[Tyuriwen]

I haven't had a non-WoW-playing boyfriend since I started playing WoW (seems it's what draw me to them, haha) so I can't really tell you. This isn't a game you go in hating...She need to have an open mind for trying new things.

But what people have said before me, maybe you can show her the Character Creation screen, with all the lovely interchangeable options us females 'apparently' love. ( I know I do, haha). The races, the hair, it's fun! =)

If she likes animals, maybe you can intice her to be a hunter, with a pet cat or a cuddly bear. :3 It might work, when I started WoW as soon as I hear the word 'pet' I went for it (that and I didn't want to be a squishy).

And definately try and steer away from the addiction, I know a few people with non-WoW playing girlfriends who choose WoW over spending time with them...which is awful, if anything, I play WoW more than my boyfriend, but whenever he's around, we never play together, and we go out and do other things. WoW is for when he's far away and gives us something to do together. xD

[Vephriel]

Don't try to force her into it, but definitely go ahead and try to show her the fun things about WoW.

Give a little explanation of the back-story and factions, show her the races and classes she can play. Give a short explanation of what each class is like and what it can do. If she decides to try making a character then gently give her help and instructions if she needs it, but don't breathe down her neck and instruct her on every single thing. Let her discover the game on her own and make those newbie mistakes that help to understand how things work. Just be a presence that she can ask advice from if she gets stuck.

[Mania]

[...] don't breathe down her neck and instruct her on every single thing. Let her discover the game on her own and make those newbie mistakes that help to understand how things work. Just be a presence that she can ask advice from if she gets stuck.

This deserves to be repeated. The first time I tried a 3D MMO, at the urging of my then-boyfriend (now-husband), he basically set up a min-max'd character for me 'so I wouldn't screw it up'. Not a good introduction! I quit playing immediately. (And moved out of state, but that's a whole 'nother story.)

Six months later I picked the game up again, secretly -- without telling him so he couldn't possibly get in my way. I spent a month or so poking around making my own mistakes until I was comfortable enough with the game. Then I let him know about my character, defending my stat choices, and we started playing together.

[Vephriel]

*nods* The worst thing you can do is overwhelm her with information. Even if you think you're being helpful by preventing mistakes, most likely it'll all just go over her head and serve to confuse her more. It's far easier to let her go at her own pace rather than attempting to have her understand absolutely everything at once. It also takes the fun out of the game when someone just stands there and tells you what to do. "No, don't take that weapon it sucks for you. Wait go the other way, there's nothing over in that direction. Okay now go talk to that dude and make sure you pick up this quest and do the chain then you should go over there and do this. Pick these talents and ignore those stats...etc, etc."

[Sphax]

yeah ... will defenetly try and thanks for the advice ^^

what class shall i tell her to try? hunter is kinda tricky and she will die a lot i think if she choses hunter in the start

what u think?

[Saturo]

Paladins are easy, but theycan be boring. I'd say Mage/warlock or rogue. It depends on her personality.

[Vephriel]

Don't tell her to try one. Let her pick for herself. Just let her know the capabilities of each class. She might surprise you and want to play a warrior, you never know.

[Ade]

You could also try googling "how to get a girlfriend to play wow"

I just fell out my seat, thanks .

Like most have already said, patience and common sense...take it slow. And the best of luck to you

[Dulanie]

my advice is to talk with her about getting more into each other's interests...i.e. she loves shoping you hate it + WoW....do not try to force it just bring it up in a discussion well into the discussion about getting closer by understanding each other's interests/hobbies/etc... make sure to emphasise the ability to spend more time together when you are apart. decribe the clases and their roles and let her try on her own. It might help to offer to pay for her account or even have her create a toon on your account so she can give it a try. The added bonus to that is that you can get the recruit a friend mount Just remember to act like it's no big deal, but you'd like her to atleast try so you can become closer. Most women I know would look at that as a sign of growing commitment.

[Rarako]

I was never very interested in WoW until my first boyfriend said he was going to start playing (turns out he had been playing for a while and didn't tell me). I didn't really care but then he started to ask me my opinion on what he should role. Alliance or Horde, then an explanation of each. What race? What class? Then he sat me down and said "Ok what should they look like?" and he started to flip through the character features. I thought it was pretty interesting but I still held my ground about not wanting to play, but watched him as his rouge took it's first steps into the wold.

A few days later I'm over at his house again, he left the room for a minute to start making diner and I look over at the computer screen. WoW is up I noticed and the character creation screen is up with a Night Elf female staring at me. I decided that I was just going to poke around a bit and saw the mouse over the the face button, so I click it. This keeps up and pretty soon I'm looking at what hair and skin choices there are. I am a bit of an RPer my self so it didn't take long until I was nose deep in the screen looking for what I thought would look best together. I get to the name and sitting there in the box is my nickname then I notice that the class, druid, was the one I had shown interest in a few days before. He had set me up. When he came back I was still sitting in the computer chair. He just walked over and asked if that's what I wanted her to look like and clicked the finished button. Afterwords he told me that I could play on his account if I wanted, just to give it a try. Four days later I bought my own copy and made my little druid again, I've been playing ever since.

Just let her test it out. Pull up the creation screen, ask her what she thinks looks good. If you can get her involved without pressuring her it might make her more receptive. If she likes it set up a trial account for her, if she wants to play with you or without you let her decide, my ex was very pushy and I almost stopped playing until I was able to tool around on my own. Just don't make it a thing that you do when you're together unless she wants to. See if it can be that thing you do when you don't have time to see each other that day, play it while you're talking on the phone at night. if you make it a casual thing then it wont seem that imposing and she might really come to enjoy it.

[Saturo]

Yah, that's the single most important thing.

Do. Not. Stress. Her.
Being too pushy might just hurt your relationship and the game. "Damn addict!"

[zedxrgal]

As everyone else said don't force her or "make" her play. I have no doubts this would have a really negative effect.

Maybe even allow her to discover on her own. Play just for a little while when she's there and see if she even shows a remote bit of good interest. If she's of the stubborn type personality and not very open minded your honest chances of changing her mind are pretty slim. Most strong women are that way and stick to their guns.

I say play a little as a starter hunter and allow her to see it. This I feel is your best bet since she's clearly an animal lover. Start small and work your way up. A small positive step is still a step.