Ranting (Bad Language Warning)

[MeAjur]

Third post is probably too early to rant about anything, but something just ticked me off a few minutes ago. Here's the backstory: Lately I've been using my husband's account to go mount farming. I drag his priest behind my paladin in hopes of seeing the Raven Lord, Swift White Hawkstrider, whatever drop. And then I use his paladin to drag my mage in hopes of the same thing. By doing this his priest now has both ZG mounts (tiger and raptor), both of which dropped on the same run (what's the chance of THAT? o_O). I only do this when he's either at work or if he doesn't feel like playing WoW. Recently he's been into Fallout: New Vegas; I asked to borrow his authenticator for an extended period of time since for the time being he wasn't interested in WoW and three days ago I did do a very lengthy ZG run to top off my mage's Zandalar rep.

Today when I logged my husband's account on the VERY first message was from one of his friends... wasn't even the trade chat junk, that's how fast this person was. Just to be classy I've changed his friend's real ID name into "friend".

[friend] whispers: rob?
To [friend]: no, i'm his wife, taking his toons out for yet another day of mount farming
[friend] whispers: Will you stop being such a selfish little bitch and allow your husband to play for once. Geez.

I'm pretty bad at detecting jokes; I have a tendancy to take things seriously. I thought this would be one of those times and decided to error on the side of friendlyness and take it as a joke.

To [friend]: nope
[friend] whispers: Why not? All you fucking do is sit on your fat ass all day.
To [friend]: I attempt to farm mounts for him, too.
[friend] whispers: You need to growup. And stop being a selfish little whoreface. Your husband works his ass off so you can sit there and get fatter each day. The least you can do is allow him to play.
To [friend]: i'm sorry you feel that way. i only use his account when he's not here or when he doesn't feel like playing.

I took screenshots which I intend to show to my husband. Had to shoo my son away several times while typing this because this isn't what I want him to see. But I am ticked off and shaking. And I don't know if this board has a language filter (looks like I'll find out as soon as I hit submit) but I typed it verbatum.

[Niabi]

Um wow, that IS rude.

I would've been offended if someone talked to me like this! It would also make me question the type of "friends" my husband would associate himself with and what he tells them when I am not around. Even if the guy just happens to be an acquaintance he randomly raids or pugs with ... that's no excuse to disrespect the other's spouse, EVER.

Hopefully your husband will handle this and defend your honor.

[Gumballs]

Woah, that is seriously rude. I don't understand why people can be so damn disrespectful, especially when a) it's none of their business and b) you were taking time out of your life to try and do something kind for your husband while he was off doing other things.

That 'friend' sounds like he needs someone to tell him just where to stick that insulting attitude of his.

I apologize that this person treated you that way, and I hope you husband reevaluates who he is being friends with. But try not to worry about it, this person is obviously a low life sleezeball who doesn't know what he's talking about <3

[Sarayana]

Wow. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, what a prick. I'd definitely show it to your husband, and then I'd suggest asking him to tell the friend what's going on - that he's not playing WoW much at the moment, that you only use his account when he doesn't want to/can't play, and that it's none of his damn business. I mean, what the hell? Where does this idiot get off telling his friend's wife how she and her husband should manage their accounts??? None of his damn business.

Edit: I was so busy seeing red I didn't even touch on the worst part of it... calling you names like that??? Any friend of my husband that did that would not be his friend for long. I'm amazed that he thinks he's being your husband's friend while acting like that.

[Kalliope]

Errr, yeah.

I'm with you; I would have read that as a poorly worded joke at the beginning too.

Regardless of his friend's opinion, he had no right to go off on you. Period. You're doing a very nice thing for your hubby trading off runs like that, and you're not preventing him from playing, should he choose to. I like how he told YOU to grow up, then called you a "whoreface" in the next sentence. Yeah, someone needs to grow up here and it doesn't sound like it's you. >_<

I wouldn't take this guy's mouthiness to heart. He's pretty obviously a jackass.

[Pent]

I would have said, "Just a second, if you want to talk to him that bad I'll get him for you."

Then wait a minute or so and type, "What were you just saying to my wife? And what gives you the idea that that is OK to talk to her like that?"

Then say, "For acting like a dick to my wife who is doing things for me on the game I am going to ignore you... do NOT message me again."

And then before you ignore him see what he comes back with...

[Lisaara]

Whoa. I would've shown my boyfriend this immediately and he would've been pissed that a friend of his EVER talked to me like that.

[Teigan]

That's terrible. I hope your husband will re-consider his choice of "friends." I would never let someone talk to my partner that way, if I had one! That's just shameful.
Don't take it personally though...he's obviously a complete dick.

[erwil]

That's terrible. I hope your husband will re-consider his choice of "friends." I would never let someone talk to my partner that way, if I had one! That's just shameful.
Don't take it personally though...he's obviously a complete dick.

I have to agree with what Teigan said. I hope your husband puts his foot down and lectures his "friend" a bit. I could never let anyone talk about my partner like that. I absolutely despise it when people talk rubbish about others, when they don't really even know them properly.
Cheer up though! Don't let it get to you!

[Lisaara]

That's terrible. I hope your husband will re-consider his choice of "friends." I would never let someone talk to my partner that way, if I had one! That's just shameful.
Don't take it personally though...he's obviously a complete dick.

I have to agree with what Teigan said. I hope your husband puts his foot down and lectures his "friend" a bit. I could never let anyone talk about my partner like that. I absolutely despise it when people talk rubbish about others, when they don't really even know them properly.
Cheer up though! Don't let it get to you!

Me neither. I'd NEVER let anyone talk to my love that way and get away with it scott-free. They'd get one hell of a verbal lashing from me and they'd be lucky if I remained their friend afterwards.

[Calomel]

My husband is a pally to the core; he's exactly the same kind of guy in-game that he is in person. I can guarantee he'd rage and break faces if one of his 'friends' said anything like that to me.

I can only hope that your husband is the same way and will tell this jerk where to shove it. It'd take one HELL of a meek and heartfelt apology for me to even consider keeping someone like that as a friend.

[Tygamoon]

I'm going to share my own idea on this.

Due to my own experience with game friends this makes me wonder what your husband has said to his buds about you, say, if he were frustrated about something happening in RL and vents a little. It could be the minor-est thing (mine sure was) but his friends may have gotten a totally wrong idea about his marriage and felt the need to "stand up for him" to you.

It's really great to be able to go somewhere and have someone listen to problems that you may be having, give a bit of sympathy and a good /pat on the back but we as internet users need to make sure things like that don't get out of hand. *I'm reminding myself of the people who get divorced over some really stupid facebook comments*

Point I'm trying to make is that if you or your husband are having real life gripes about who puts wet towels on the bathroom floor or who has to clean up the dog poo from the yard then they need to be kept out of game and off the net. There are some people out there that get way too concerned over these things or even want to cause mischief for 'lolz drama'. They are out there, the disgusting buggers!

Get this cleared up right away! I hope nothing like that happens to you again. No one deserves to be told off by strangers in a game for something that isn't any of their business.

[Novikova]

Agreeing with Tygamoon. I tend to consider husband and wives one unit, but if they gripe, I don't spread it around. I mean, everyone complains about their roomies - so yeah. Who HASN'T gotten mad when someone forgets to replace the toilet paper or eats your last favorite item in the fridge? Or flings laundry everywhere? When you live with someone, you know a LOT more about their weird and whacky habits.

Still, that 'friend' had no right to say that to you. In the ToS it states hubbies, wives and a supervised kiddo can share an account. Sheesh.

[zedxrgal]

I usually get bad /mean jokes as jokes right away but yes that was just downright freaking rude. Hell ............. I got pissed. But Tygamoon does bring up a good point. You may what to inquire about what your husband has been telling his "friends" on there. Hopefully he won't fib. Regardless of what your husband may or may not be telling his "friends" what he said is completely rude and disrespectful. Time to cull him from the friends list.

[Tahlian]

Still, that 'friend' had no right to say that to you. In the ToS it states hubbies, wives and a supervised kiddo can share an account. Sheesh.

Actually, Novikova, you might want to go back and re-read the TOS/EULA. It doesn't say that. The sole exception to the "no account sharing" rule is that a parent or legal guardian may have ONE minor child play on their account up until that child is no longer a minor. If the account was created for a minor child, then Billing will help the parent transfer the account to the child's name when that child turns 18 and proper documentation is provided.

To the subject at hand...yes, that so-called "friend" was completely and totally out of line, and I too would suggest discussing the matter with the hubby to make sure things are properly addressed.

[MeAjur]

Thank you, everyone. I am grateful to know that I'm not the only one who would have been flabbergasted. I did ask my husband what he'd been talking about with his friend, but if no one minds that's a matter between him and I.

[Sarayana]

Thank you, everyone. I am grateful to know that I'm not the only one who would have been flabbergasted. I did ask my husband what he'd been talking about with his friend, but if no one minds that's a matter between him and I.

Definitely. I hope things are well between you.

[Worba]

The guy sounds like he needs medication - not kidding. Either that or he was hopped up on medication at the time... either way, he's an emotionally unstable little nerdrager with extreme bipolarity, and if that was an accurate quote, then your husband needs to tell the misogynist d-bag punk off.

If one of my friends talked to my wife that way, I would rip him a new one and terminate the friendship immediately. For starters.

EDIT: yes it would be good to find out what your husband had said to this person about you, but honestly it doesn't change the fact that he had no right to speak to you that way, not by one iota.

[Chrizesu]

Man, if anyone treated the people I let use my account like that, I would have to put people on the unfriend and hate list. ><

I would probably also asked him why he's on his ass an insulting those who are actually trying to be helpful instead of getting something productive done.

[Novikova]

Still, that 'friend' had no right to say that to you. In the ToS it states hubbies, wives and a supervised kiddo can share an account. Sheesh.

Actually, Novikova, you might want to go back and re-read the TOS/EULA. It doesn't say that. The sole exception to the "no account sharing" rule is that a parent or legal guardian may have ONE minor child play on their account up until that child is no longer a minor. If the account was created for a minor child, then Billing will help the parent transfer the account to the child's name when that child turns 18 and proper documentation is provided.

To the subject at hand...yes, that so-called "friend" was completely and totally out of line, and I too would suggest discussing the matter with the hubby to make sure things are properly addressed.

Huh, how odd. I saw a blue post on the forum ages ago that it wasn't unusual/GMs didn't really go after husband/wife account sharing. Maybe I'm old.