So my family lost someone today

[Qinni]

My dad's mother has passed away today in the afternoon. I'm not sure how I feel. I loved her but she never treated my cousins, brother and me right. I know she was being tough only yo teach us how hard life was. I did cry with my dad for a while since its he and his sister that are hurting the most. Anyways...at least she isn't hurting more. :c

[cowmuflage]

It's always a bummer when a family member dies even if you did not like them.

[Qinni]

thanks for the kind words. i know a part of me loved her.

[Lupis]

I had a similar experience recently with an uncle I wasn't particularly fond of, but he was my mom's brother and she took it hard. I'm really sorry for your loss.

[Wain]

I'm sorry

I think one mistake people often make when a family member dies is over-analysing their feelings and worrying if they're not feeling sad enough. You feel what you feel. It's ok to not be a blubbering mess.

It's also much how their death affects you directly. When both my mum's parents died I was sad, but didn't really cry. When my dog of 15 years died I was a blubbering wreck because she was my companion.

[ashdawn]

I'm sorry

I think one mistake people often make when a family member dies is over-analysing their feelings and worrying if they're not feeling sad enough. You feel what you feel. It's ok to not be a blubbering mess.

It's also much how their death affects you directly. When both my mum's parents died I was sad, but didn't really cry. When my dog of 15 years died I was a blubbering wreck because she was my companion.

kind of off topic to the actual post but: my aunt passed away when I was like 9 from cancer, she was my dad's sister, now to be fair i've never liked my dad and he did some personal bad things but I just wasnt sad, she lived in Ireland came over once a year and i saw her every 2 years for a day or so. I felt bad that I wasnt feeling sad enough but in the end I decided to just show my feelings that I didnt know her, but the statement you've given me "I think one mistake people often make when a family member dies is over-analysing their feelings and worrying if they're not feeling sad enough. You feel what you feel. It's ok to not be a blubbering mess. " will help me a lot on future because I highly fear death and the death of others.

I wish I could help by saying I can relate to this but I just cant, im really sorry for your loss, I hope you do feel better soon, I cant say I know how you feel but I can 100% say I know EXACTLY why you feel the way you do, I never knew my aunt and ill admit I was sad, not the point of crying but I was sad nonetheless, if you know them, generally you will be sad when they die.

again, sorry for your loss.

[Mozag]

Wain said it better than I could.
I am glad you are there for your father though.

[Makoes]

I am not good with words, so I'll give you many

[Castile]

My dad's mother has passed away today in the afternoon. I'm not sure how I feel. I loved her but she never treated my cousins, brother and me right. I know she was being tough only yo teach us how hard life was. I did cry with my dad for a while since its he and his sister that are hurting the most. Anyways...at least she isn't hurting more. :c

Sorry for your loss Qinni I kinda felt the same when my Aunt died. I only met her once when I was 19 and she had MS and was in a wheelchair. She was also a control freak grump and spoke to my mum and other aunty quite rudely. I didn't hate her but I didn't connect with her either. I sat with my mum when she died and hugged her but I didn't really cry. I felt glad though that she wasn't in pain anymore (the inability to move made her last few weeks not nice we were told).

Like Wain I think I was more upset when my cat died. I also lost an "aunt" (not really related but a close friend of my mums) to cancer a few years ago and I was beyond upset at that. I had known her since I was a little girl etc. So i think it depends on how you connect to a person to how you feel when they pass, theres no 'wrong' way to feel.

[Dewclaw]

Sorry for your loss.

[Lisaara]

Aww, Qinni...I'm so sorry! :< Sometimes even if you don't care too much about someone, death has a way of making you cry.

[Ana]

Sorry to hear it...

not sure what else to say but